Friday 12.1.2018

Perspective. It’s a funny thing. How we can see the exact same thing in completely different ways. How what actually happens doesn’t really mean anything, but our backgrounds, fears, values and just all those random associations we have with things. It is no wonder why we fail to understand each other as humans when every single one of us is speaking our own unique language of emotions and reasonings. And we are never taught how to either. As children the adults in our lives are often being great examples of how not to understand each other. And at school we learn all kinds of irrelevant details of so many subjects that we completely forget about after finishing the school. Yet there is not a single lesson on how to simply live life without drama, conflicts or just overall confusion. The most important lesson, the life itself, we must figure out on our own.

Some of us never get through even the first step of understanding that we have all the power over our lives. That we can create our lives into whatever we want as long as we choose determination over excuses and compassion over fear. Being able to see yourself from outside point of view is a very useful skill, though hard to achieve. It is so easy to always see the fault in others and ignore the pain and frustration caused by our own issues, making our patience short and egos easily hurt.

And it gets even funnier when you feel all those negative emotions about the things someone supposedly did to you and at the same time deep down you know it’s not about them, it’s about you. It’s about the little innocent child or animal inside you not being taken care of. And it is our own responsibility to take care of it. Every single one of us is worth it and owes it to ourselves. But we are never taught how to do it and no one else can do it for us. So many of us end up neglecting those inner children. Some of us succeed to take care of them, but for very few it is easy. For most of us it is a long journey of trial and error. But the good thing about all this is that it is never too late to start, it is never too late to change how we see ourselves, others and the world around us and make the life more pleasant for everyone.